Relationships

The art of listening has been lost in these polarised times

The BBC’s Listening Project turns seven this month. It offers a window into a gentler, more compassionate Britain What was it? At first I couldn’t tell. I was listening to the radio on my headphones, and a woman was speaking, in a northern accent, gently, into my right ear,...

How we live together: the ‘life wives’

We’re on the same wavelength – it’s like she can read my mind Zahra Jones, 40 Amy and I have known each other for nearly 25 years. We met while working at Habitat in Chester; it felt like meeting a kindred spirit. We ended up living together because my ex-boyfriend and...

Many women fleeing domestic abuse face poverty, report finds

Respondents in England say partners use economic abuse as method of control Victims of domestic abuse face the choice of their families being plunged into homelessness and poverty, or staying with the abuser, a report has found. More than two-thirds of survivors of domestic abuse have reported their partners withheld...

Domestic abuse survivors and children sleeping rough, survey finds

Women unable to get refuge place also having to sofa-surf or stay with abuser Survivors of domestic abuse and their children are being forced to sleep rough as they struggle to find safe accommodation, a report from the leading charity for domestic abuse has said. Women’s Aid said a survey of...

My son has special needs. Should I tell him I’m not his biological father?

Secrets in families are rarely a good idea, says Annalisa Barbieri I have a son, aged 22: J. He was born with physical disabilities and special educational needs. He’s a happy, well-adjusted young man: he’ll never be able to live independently, but he is fairly self-sufficient. His mother and I are divorced,...

Blind date: ‘He probably thinks I’m looking for an Irish passport’

Emily, 26, charity worker, and Barry, 24, maths teacher Barry on Emily What were you hoping for?A laugh, good conversation and nice food. First impressions?She needs to work on her French – she picked the wrong dessert. What did you talk about?London geography, travel, dog borrowing apps and swimming. Any awkward moments?None. Good table...

Be honest, be kind: five lessons from an amicable divorce

Consciously uncoupling is possible: choose your battles, build a support network and learn to play the long game It’s not always infidelity that leads a couple to split – sometimes a marriage simply runs out of steam and both sides are better off apart. But when that happens, is...

A feminist’s guide to raising boys

Before I became a mother, I thought my feminism was a battle fought and won. But having three sons has challenged everything It’s always the things you think will be a doddle that end up causing most heartache. When I was asked to write about being a feminist and...

I have become far too close to my best friend

I know our friendship is too one-sided, but I cannot bear the thought of being without her. How do I maintain a healthier relationship? I met my best friend a year and a half ago. She’s fantastic and caring, but I feel I have become too reliant on her...

How we met: ‘I proposed in the toilet queue at a festival – she said yes’

The first of a new series. Charlie Clark was mourning his father’s death when a friend took him to a gig. ‘I wasn’t in the mood for chatting up girls,’ he says Charlie Clark, 36, and Kerrie Clark, 34, are both graphic designers in Bristol. They met eight years...